How to Build Trust in a Relationship
Being Together Doesn’t Necessarily Deepen the Relationship
In relationships where trust is constantly demanded, trust can paradoxically become even more distorted. When you feel the need to monitor and control a close person, it may lead to constantly checking their schedule through phone calls, closely observing changes in your partner's behavior, and refusing to allow individual activities. When such behaviors exceed appropriate limits, one party may feel they can never truly trust anyone, while the other may feel endlessly tormented by malicious suspicions.
Constant Anxiety Can Exhaust Your Partner
Even if the betrayal came from your partner, it's possible to develop self-doubt. This is not a wise approach, but it can lead you to think that you deserve such treatment because you feel inadequate. Someone who has been betrayed may start to believe they don't deserve to be loved. This can foster feelings of inferiority, leading them to assume that anyone who shows interest will ultimately abandon them for someone else, prompting a defensive mindset. Betrayal doesn’t just leave behind anger; it can also lead to self-hatred and the pain of self-deprecation. Consequently, whether the person next to you is trustworthy or not may become a less significant issue.
If you find it difficult to establish trust even without any objective evidence of betrayal from your partner, it is likely that such feelings of inferiority are the underlying cause. Those seeking stability in a relationship may not realize that their anxiety stems from feelings of inferiority. They may lack awareness that building self-confidence is the key to resolving these issues and continue to seek constant reassurance and promises from their partner.
Filling Your Self-Esteem Can Alleviate Anxiety
A sense of satisfaction from within can help eliminate anxiety in close relationships. You may feel fulfilled in your work or content with your personal style. When you can evaluate yourself positively and experience that satisfaction, your interest in your partner's actions may suddenly diminish.
